5 Weeks of Consistency

After 3 weeks of consistent posting, documenting, waking up really early, working hard, I hit the inevitable slump. I did continue to workout 6 times per week but my routine was thrown off and I could tell a difference in my mindset very quickly. One day I woke up at 4:30 then the next day at 5:00 then one day at 6:00…what am I doing? I’m slipping on my goals that’s what I’m doing! Week 4 was my slipping week and I will never get that week back. I didn’t post to Motivational Father, I exercised for shorter duration at random times, I woke up at varying times, and I didn’t post anything to hold myself accountable. I started to fall back into my original ways.

Alright slipping happens move forward forget about it. Week 5 I’m back on it, up on a Monday at 4:00 AM feeling great leg day because that’s always “fun”. I am about to be 33 years old and I do not have time to waste because the years keep flowing and I cannot afford to sit still and watch the world slip by. I have started noticing a difference in my body after eating well-ish, skipping unnecessary calories from sides and not snacking nearly as much, I still have my fun on the weekends but not like I used to. Being healthy is where all progress starts, if you can control yourself and your health then you can start to control other aspects of your life and that’s where I’m starting. If you feel good from exercise and eating right then you organically create motivation to do other things that you have been putting off for so long.

Start working out. Why? Because you owe it to yourself to be healthy. You owe it to your family and loved ones to be healthy and active for a long time. Confidence is contagious and you want others to catch it from you, you want to be a carrier for the confidence contagion. You are always looking for motivation through influencers on social media and saying “I wish I could do that…that person is so lucky…look at that person’s body…ugh I don’t have time to get to that level…I can’t do these things” well no matter what you think, if you think you can or you think you can’t then you’re right.

“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you’re right” – Someone said this and it stuck with me

Have a great week and stay motivated to becoming the person you want to be, because if you don’t do it someone else is going to.

-Matt

How to Be a Fun Daddy!

So unfortunately I’m currently on business travel, sitting at a bar waiting on my chicken to arrive, instead of being at home playing with my little buddy. I thought I might take a minute to give a little back to the Daddy community, considering I’m the only one at the bar. My introvertness is shining through because I am writing at a bar. My “Dad” is shining through because I ordered the roasted chicken, which was amazing, and the first cut squirted juice on my only t-shirt…oh well, I’m also wearing tennis shoes and jeans so fucking sue me!

I have not missed my family this much before. The main reason is that this is for work, not play, not relaxation, not betterment, just work. I’m rolling my eyes just thinking about it. I have a little dude at home that yells “Dada!!” every time I get home and it makes me feel so great!

So to be a great Daddy, not merely a Father you must….well let’s list a few items.

Act Excited When You Walk in the Door

Everyday when you get home be as excited to see your child as they are to see you! If they scream “Dada!” then retaliate with “insert child’s name here!” then go straight and pick them up or immediately play with them for a couple minutes. Your child will remember this every single day and look forward to it. You need to hit your knees and get down on their level and make noise to play with them.

Get on Their Level

When you are playing with your kids get on the floor! Yes you may feel tired and want to sit but who cares get your ass on the floor and play! My son loves trucks and horse back rides so that’s exactly what I do. I get on the floor and make weird noises while he rides around on my back. I had to show him how to climb up onto my back but once I did he never forgot. I crawl around with him like a horse and he is in his super happy state. I also drive trucks around with him while making lots of truck noises. Granted a lot of what I’m saying is for a boy but girls will have similar likes at this age so get down there and plays trucks or dolls whichever!

Rough House

Ahh my favorite pastime, rough housing. My son is at the age where I can throw him around and he loves it! You must know he sees you as Superman when you throw him around a room or throw him on the bed or couch! That’s right you are Superman to someone, no matter what jackass you work for all day, when you get home you are the man, the head honcho, the super hero! Throw them, carefully, tickle them, suplex them, and make mom nervous sometimes! Remember that you are the Daddy of a new person and your responsibility is to make them successful in everything until all they do is success. Yes they can, will, and should fail throughout life but give them the basic tools for success.

Chill With Them

Finally just chill with them when it’s almost bedtime. Turn on a good cartoon movie and lay on the floor with their toys and books and most likey they will sit and relax with you. They need to know that Dad is fun and also likes to relax before bed. Give them some chocolate milk and a bedtime snack, you need one too obviously, and just kick it.

Well now you know how to keep your child interested in you. It’s fun having a mini me around the house because it drives mom a little crazy which we both love! Play with them, make noises, and relax with them! Easy as that!

-Matt

Being Parents…To a Little Ball of Concentrated Enthusiasm

My main man, my second mate, my crime fighting side kick, my reason why, my son. My son’s name is Lincoln and he is about 1 1/2 years old and has a vast amount of energy, like the kind of energy scientists are looking for to power our way to Mars and beyond! When he was first born he was a beautiful little guy with tons of personality as you can see below he was clearly a little skeptical of his new found situation (don’t worry buddy we have to provide you everything for at least 18 years or so).

screenshot_20180810-061245~27435074347631668970..jpg
Skeptical with the People’s Eyebrow

It’s absolutely insane how someone so small can flip your life into a totally different direction, my wife and I have changed for the better. We are both absolutely in love with this king of the castle and get so many laughs everyday!

Alright now time to get serious on when a Dad finally gets to his point of true compatibility. When your child is first born and being breast fed or bottle fed by their Mother all the time then guess who get left to the side for a bit of time??…yes of course you’re right, good ole Padre. Your baby at this time requires tons of nurturing attention and who has that instinct? Well I’m here to tell you that in most cases it isn’t Daddy! Guys are very different beings although, very impressive in their own right, we do not have a strong sense of nurture and that’s alright. During that first year or so you are pretty much the assistant to Mom and Baby, even though all you want to do is play with your new sidekick! It wasn’t really until at or just after one year that I was truly able to play with my son and receive his feedback, where he would seek me out to play. When you child starts looking for Dad to play that is one of the most rewarding feelings a man could possibly have. You finally feel as though there is something you can do that will put a huge smile on their faces while also giving Mom some break time.

 

Lincoln is now watching everything that I do and tries to mimic if possible, or even if not possible, so I have to be careful! One day I’m carrying him on my shoulders and we are outside, I spit in the grass, we guess what? Lincoln spits on my head! I really got a kick out of this so I did it a couple other times for the reaction, but then realized “Oh crap” I don’t want him to pick up this bad habit! Now he also copies everything else. If he sees my outside washing one of the cars he likes to use the hose or wipe the car with a sponge…but the hose is by far his favorite because he gets to spray Dad! Every time he pulls the trigger on the hose he lets out this manly grunt (think Tim the Tool Man) so I know he is definitely my son! He watches me workout if he is awake and wants to play with all the cool stuff in the garage like the stick I some times use to stretch, which he just swings around yelling “Hi-Ya, Hi-Ya!!”. If I am boxing in the garage then he wants to wear the gloves and throw some punches!

Now we are at the point to where he likes being rough housed, wrestled, and chased! This is the ultimate Dad/Son bonding time because Dad is the best Luchador in all the land! I can throw him on the bed, pick him up over my shoulder and tote him around upside down, and the holy grail of early fatherhood the famed horse back ride!

screenshot_20180710-2057467745996215899628257.png
“Sleepy horse back ride”

Being able to play with my son now to a point that isn’t just stacking a couple blocks makes it much easier to come up with new games and keeps him interested. Like I said he loves being chased now which is fun because you get to see this tiny human run as fast as he can will you make noises going after him!

Being a Dad is an amazing experience that just keeps getting better with age! The main thing is that I need to keep my own energy at a high level so that my son keeps his at a high level, they watch everything you do. If you workout and play then they will see that as normal, if you only sit on the couch and watch tv all the time then they will see that as normal, pick your path carefully. I am enjoying this part of our lives so much and CAN wait for the next stage (I don’t want to rush anything). Our son is a vast amount of energy concentrated into a small hungry package and we wouldn’t have it any other way!

Some times he gets a little tired and relaxed, but it never lasts long

Enjoy Fatherhood and make it fun!

-Matt

It’s Crowded at The Bottom

4:30 AM – Waking up is a little difficult today. Who am I to not get up and push my body and mind to perform? There are people out there that have extreme disabilities, unfortunate circumstances, and even two or three jobs! Here I am laying in bed thinking about getting another hour of sleep…what a sad ignorant thought. I told myself “Get your ass up! There are people out working you that are missing limbs, people who are single parents, people who operate everyday on little sleep!”. The people that have everything stacked against them are my role models, my heroes. I am lucky to be able to wake up everyday and jump out of bed and go do whatever I want to do! I cannot waste this opportunity called life. Everyday we get closer to the end, who are we to waste this precious time? I have work to do. We have work to do. Get up and work on yourself!!!

Why is everyone so content with “Normal”? This leaves us at the bottom, and it’s crowded down there. It’s so crowded at the bottom so I’m going to make a nice spacious spot for myself at the top!

Life is the biggest risk, because you are not going to get out alive. Keep taking risks and improving!

I am up today at 4:30 AM working on myself before I go into work. I get my workout in while it’s still dark outside. By the time I get to work I have already completed half a workday just for myself and I feel damn proud of that. One day when my son is older he will see me up so early and will probably think I’m a crazy mother fucker but it will be ingrained in his memory forever. My son will be able to say “My Dad works harder than anyone!” because it will be true. I thought I was tired of having my back against the wall until I realized it was necessary to keep it there! I do my best work when I’m under immense pressure and for whatever reason I forgot to perform in this manner for myself! I am going to kick my own ass outside of work just like it gets kicked at work because I owe that to myself and especially my son.

The last couple of days I have had a voice in my head saying “Come on just go back to the way you were, sleep in, skip today’s workout, don’t write because you don’t have anything to say”. You know what? I still got up everyday, I still got my workout in, I still kept my head up! There is a turning point going on right now and there will be many more in my future, I am fighting through those thoughts everyday until they are pushed down so far that I can’t even hear them any more.

My back is against the wall everyday because I make the decision to keep it there! Nobody is going to help me get where I want to go, I have to do ALL the work! Be up for this challenge because once it’s over it’s over. Create a routine for everyday, don’t make it easy! I’m up everyday before 5:00 AM and I go straight to the black kettle that holds that sweet caffeine blood flow, then I walk right out to the garage, open the door, at this point it’s happening already. Once you get so far it’s hard to turn back and go back to bed because you will disappoint yourself, and your conscious does not want that feeling.

wall
Keep Your Back Against it All The Time!

Some times when I wake up early I want to go back to sleep, but then I remember why I’m doing this routine. I have to show my son and myself that you can do whatever you want and it’s never to late to make a change in your life!

Remember it’s crowded at the bottom so claim a spot at the top!

-Matt

Empty The Dish Washer…You’ll Thank Me Later

This was one hell of a weekend. After a strong week of training, working, and everyday chaos it was time to wind down. Just a couple of mini stories below from the weekend all which felt much deserved after a productive week.

FridayThe Gentlemen’s Evening

img9514664667594164683425432.jpg

A couple friend’s and I decided we needed an evening for the boys, so we politely informed our wives that we were going to go ahead and….who am I kidding of course I made sure it was alright with her before going out, leaving all evening home responsibilities to her. Although I some times make stupid mistakes (think forgetting to move laundry from washer to dryer, or empty the dish washer of the clean dishes…gentlemen if you want to get some “attention” from your wife then empty that damn dish washer! This single task may have ultimately led to the conception of our son!)…alright I have to side bar this thought. Guys, your wife will ask you to do many things in life but if you ever empty the dishwasher without being asked and put all the dishes where they go then I’m here to tell you that you will become a God among men, a King among peasants, a Lion among gazelle. Your stock will immediately rise and possibly even split a couple times in the process, this will pay dividends for the rest of your life! Alright I digress (sorry for all the sad puns) I believe I have made my point here, just heed the advice and watch the magic happen!

“Empty the dishwasher! You’ll thank me later!”

One thing that I got a bit of a chuckle out of before starting the evening where history will be made was the way two of us traveled to meet the third. We were about to leave my house and I realized I needed a pick me up…not a roadie or starting beverage. I quickly made a homemade iced coffee, put it into a red solo cup (this seemed familiar) and headed out to the car. I sold my beautiful Toyota Tundra pickup and bought a small Ford Focus so we could buy a house recently and I obviously have a car seat in the back. So here we are, old college roommates jumping into my silver bullet car with an iced coffee in hand and a car seat with a Toy Story Woody doll in the back, ready to P.A.R.T.Y!! Times they are a changing.

Capture_6

Saturday – Slept in due to not being able to handle more than three or four good beers (and maybe a small vodka) but the night was well worth it. Almost took a nap while our son was sleeping but decided to get up and go into the garage for a sweaty training session, best decision I made.

img_20180804_1556567972202305374149148.jpg
Look at the sparkle of that bald head

Sunday – REST DAY!!!

Called a brunch with a some great friends. Always good to have friends that have kids of similar age to our son, he loves being around other kids. Little pool time after breakfast and just relaxing the rest of the day.

Time to get back at it tomorrow! Setting my alarm for 4:00 AM going to try and squeeze a little more time into the morning routine. I’m going to make this week pure hell in “The Church” (kind of an odd turn of phrase).

Monday Starter Kit

  • Get up early on Monday
  • Eat Clean on Monday
  • Workout hard on Monday (Start with Legs)
  • The rest of the week will fall in line
  • Get your ass into gear and go do it!

“Have an awesome week and remember to EMPTY THE DISHWASHER!”

-Matt

The Introvert’s Blog

I am an introvert, there I said it (or maybe I just thought it out loud). If you know me well or in certain circumstances then you would know that I have the ability to have energy around people and have tons of fun without a doubt. All that being said, forcing myself to maintain such a high amount of energy throughout the day utterly exhausts me and this is because my brain does not function this way on a normal basis. I am obviously a morning person and have annoyingly high amounts of energy when I wake up in most cases (my wife can vouch and does not share that same annoying energy at that time). First thing in the morning I drink some high octane black jitter juice and then roll right into “The Church” (my garage gym) to pay my dues, but when the evening hits after a day of work I am only good until about 9:30 or so. I spend my entire day talking with people of all different types of personalities and backgrounds and I must remain “on” all the time!

introvert

An introverted person is someone who is always in their own head and rarely shows their hand to anyone. My mind tends to run 1,000 mph from day break to day’s end and that is on top of being “on” with many different scenarios all day.  I enjoy people watching and running scenarios in my head, all though this is also slowly maddening at times. Super high energy people zap my energy pretty quickly because I just cannot keep up!

Throughout most of my life I wanted to force myself into situations that make me an extrovert. I would go to parties, volunteer for ridiculous things, and some times even have a couple drinks before going to have drinks so that I could loosen up a bit and talk more. Over the years I realized that this wasn’t the way to go, I am a typically quiet and in my head type of guy and I just need to be happy with that. This does not mean I don’t want to be around extroverts or even “extreme extroverts” (k…a…s…i…e, shameless name drop), I enjoy and thrive on it most of the time but once my energy is spent it doesn’t come back until I recharge with some time back in my head.

introvert_1

Funny thing about writing is that I don’t have to talk! I can sit here in my own head and just type what’s running through it any time I want. This project has been amazing for my mind, I find that I can data dump onto a laptop or phone without rebuttal. You know how you have those conversations with yourself in the shower? Those faux arguments that you always win? Like you are going to jump out and go use that information for good! (I know you know what I’m talking about you don’t have to lie to me) This writing thing is kinda like that. You can publish your brain waves as though you were the only person talking in the room and some times you need that, especially if you are an introvert. You can anticipate what people’s reactions will be and type that and then strike back as if you just proved them wrong (or right depending on the conversation of the day). I know this seems like “talking to yourself” but come on everyone does this in some form or fashion and it’s fun to discuss the things that most people take for granted.

Either way I enjoy this writing thing (like it’s new and no one has ever done it). Nah you know what, it is kind of new, because most people tell small blurbs about their day via social media. Why can’t everyone have an autobiography of themselves to pass down to their children and grandchildren? Facebook isn’t going to count unless you just want to show them that you went to the beach one time and all other memories were grand and epic! Most people post only the fun things that they do but those aren’t the only things that people should know about you. People need to know what makes you who you are and those are usually not the pictures you post, those things are usually the life learned experiences that you go through, the tough times that require you to push through, and the times where you have to force yourself to change in order to be a better person.

I am going to just keep on being an introverted guy who goes on caffeine fueled rage workouts by myself every morning because that is when I do my best thinking and understanding!

Do things outside of your comfort zone, say yes instead of no, be happy inside your own head from time to time (everyone doesn’t understand it but who gives a shit), use other people’s energy to thrive, create your own energy by striving to be your best self, and for the sake of all that is good and decent get your ass up early and do something for yourself!

-Matt

To Be a Great Dad, Watch Mom

My wife and I have been parents for about a year and a half now (or a some parents say, 18-months, this is okay to say as long as counting in months stops at 2 years old! No more “my son is 36 months old”…he is 3 years old until he is 4, come on people!) We have learned a ton together and are still learning new things about parental organized chaos every day! We both work full time and are career oriented, both have goals in mind for ourselves and for our son. We are fortunate to have many great friends that we see often and even get the opportunity to pass on some lessons learned from our experiences. We are busy ass people as many parents are. I wasn’t sure how well I was going to do as a father because I knew it would be busy and I’m am not the best multi-tasker as my wife will clearly tell you. My wife however is amazing at juggling multiple tasks and deadlines and is able to remember what we have planned every weekend.

img_20180513_081854_3907616170685758224142.jpg

I could not organize our lives let alone my own without her scheduling everything on my Microsoft Outlook calendar. She tells me where to be and when because at some point in a conversation I agreed to all these tasks and events. She schedules her doctor’s appointments and our son’s appointments and due to an eye surgery, over the past 8 months, has been quite a task. She keeps our family in order and never asks for much in return. Some times I feel as though I’m going a little crazy from how busy we always are but that is just this period in our lives, friends getting married, having babies, birthday parties, other kids birthday parties (which are really adult parties to celebrate another year you were able to keep your child in good condition!). Everyday is a new adventure at home let alone the 8-10 hours of work for either of us.

My wife is always organized even when she has a breakdown thinking she isn’t on top of it, this is why we are such a great match. I am typically the calm, laid back, living right now person while she is the planning aficionado for each and every week. I drive her crazy and her me, but the differing styles tend to compliment one another. I have never had to “confirm” my decisions so often to anyone but her project management lifestyle ensures that I am held accountable! If it wasn’t for her I would crumble trying to do all of this (major props to those single parents out there, my Mom was one of them who busted her ass to provide a great childhood for my brother and myself). She is the sticky project planning glue that holds us together and keeps us all happy! This is the main reason I want to become a more productive person, a Motivational Father, a stronger parental partner, because she is so strong and just keeps pushing every day.

img_20180526_1631107267663353008315114.jpg

My wife is the most loving, caring, supportive, and brutally honest person that I know. She loves being around friends and family with a good cadillac margarita and some chips and salsa (preferably queso dip) and relaxing outside. This lady drives me to become my best self and I could not imagine my life without her. I assume I would never know what was wrong with my dogs, when the next appointment is, if anyone has a birthday coming up, if I agreed to do something, hell i would probably forget to pay bills even though the money is there. The biggest thing that I might forget to do without her is to drive myself to become the best example of a man for my son. I might not be nearly as driven as I am today to move forward and better myself. She is always the most supportive person in my life no matter what I’m going through.

img_20171210_172033_5404582514676775385741.jpg

To my wife

Thank you for my reasons “why”. Thank you for supporting me through creating this site so I can data dump my thoughts and for helping me to reach the best version of myself.

I love you (and yes, I can confirm that!)

Also, I know you are going to tell me to change one of these pictures but I like them so live with it woman!

-Matt

Train, Work, Family

Right now you are at work looking at the clock thinking “damn, just a few more hours until I get to go home”. What is your plan when you get home? What are you gonna do? Are you going home to tell your wife how bad your day was? How busy you were? How your boss pissed you off? Then you go straight back there the next day, well I want to tell you, that whole day is now gone and you will never get that time back. You want to make a change? You want to start exercising? Want to get up earlier? Spend more time with your family? Go on an amazing vacation? Well get up and get on it! All you have to do is start! Take the first step and just start! Why is it so hard? Ask yourself that question, then listen to how stupid your excuses sound. “I cannot get up earlier because I need that extra hour to feel good.”, deep down you know that’s bullshit! Make a change, make the change for yourself first but then for your family or loved ones! How successful and happy you are will affect all those around you in a very positive way, and if it doesn’t then those are the people that get cut from the team.

I get up before the burning ball in the sky so I can train my body and mind before I start my day. I’m up so early that I don’t even see another person for the first two hours of my morning. Any idea how much I have accomplished by that time? Some times I have trained twice or at least one long strength conditioning session. I usually use the remaining time to cook myself some egg whites with peanut butter toast and maybe a protein shake. Finally I get on Motivationalfather.com and write about my workout and whatever I have been thinking about during that quiet time in the morning.

screenshot_20180731-042322~27143552208616438091..png

My ultimate goal here is to bring out the better person that I know is inside myself. I know I have a highly trained, intelligent, and productive person lurking within. I am going to tell my son that he can do anything he wants and puts his mind to, but you have to give 120% to what you love. He will not be lacking in confidence or vigor because I’m not giving him the proper support. I will lead by living. My son will see me live and do extraordinary things, and hopefully he will see this example and strive to create an amazing life!

The best part about accomplishing so much before 7:00 AM is all the free time in the evening for my family. When I say “free” time I mean really free because I have already trained my body, mind, and done some things for myself, that’s free. When you aren’t working out or accomplishing any personal goals then all your “free” time turns into guilty time. You should feel guilty when you aren’t working towards your goals, so get after it today! I have more energy to play with my son and do things around the house. This is really working for me and I am positive that in some shape or form it will work for you too.

-Matt

4:00 AM Comes Early, But So Does 32 Years of Age

Let’s GO!!!

4:23 AM – Monday means LEG DAY time to get up and build that foundation of strength! Popped right out of bed this morning, added a cup of dark black roasted adrenaline to my blood stream then right out to “The Church” for some sweaty painful morning ritual!

Leg Day:

Keep the workouts and movements simple so you don’t have to think of a workout this early in the morning. I am not a super athlete but I do know what works for legs, squat variations, lunges, Romanian dead lifts etc. Keep it simple, voluminous, and sweaty!

  • Row                                         2,000 meters (wake up call!)
  • Barbell Lunges                    4X25 
  • Banded Leg Press               4X15
  • Barbell Squats                     3X12
  • Romanian Dead Lifts         3X15
  • Quick walk around the neighborhood so I can make sure I’m the first one working!

5:23 AM – A good friend of mine sent me a text saying “he was working late and 4:00 AM came real early today”, this got me thinking. I have been getting up and going straight to work for someone else for many years, yes I have been a fairly early riser for most of those years but not like this current run. I started thinking “you know what comes early? 32 years comes early.” I cannot believe that I have not been getting up this early for my entire adult life! I cannot imagine what I could have accomplished with an extra 3 hours per day and the amount of continuous energy that this schedule gives me. Doesn’t matter what I could have done all that matters is what I’m going to do next!

We are so fortunate to be able to wake up everyday and make choices for ourselves! You can sleep in, you can get up and workout, you can get up and swim, you can get up and write or read. Who are we to waste this most precious time and decide to constantly hit the snooze button everyday? When you set your alarm the night before and have these solid intentions of getting up and doing shit what stops you from accomplishing this simple goal. It’s easy, just get up! Pour coffee and open the blinds or turn on the lights, turn on some music or a video of some drill Sargent screaming, just do something! Stop doing nothing! 30 years will come fast if it hasn’t already, then 40 years, then 50, 60, 70, before you know it your at the end and wondering “What if?”.

No more snoozing the alarm, you are an adult, you are in charge of every choice you make. If you didn’t get enough stuff done then that is your fault and your fault only! Get shit done! Take care of yourself so that you can live a long happy successful life no matter your circumstances. If you keep hitting snooze then before you know it your years are gone!

Get after what you want starting today!!!

-Matt

Powered by WordPress.com.

Up ↑